How do we relate in this age of change, stress and disconnect?
How do we find a partner, or deepen with our chosen partner, whilst running a busy life together and juggling the demands of work, family, and the bills?
How do we keep the spark alive and enjoy intimacy while attending to the challenges of life and relationships?
Most of us yearn to connect in meaningful, passionate, and hot intimate relationships that deepen and grow over time. In our intimacy work we teach the core skills that are necessary to live a rich intimate life. We uncover blocks, blind spots, and the habitual patterns that hold us back from love. We explore fresh ways of being and relating to open up new possibilities in intimacy.
Our approach to intimacy and relationships is grounded in decades of practical experience with real people. In addition to our international workshop schedule, I have counseled couples for over twenty years and logged over 30,000 hours of face-to-face sessions. I have consulted and advised numerous high profile individuals who can afford the very best advise out there, from Oscar winning movie stars and Grammy winning musicians and billionaire CEOs and entrepreneurs.
The combination of this professional work with my Tantric training means we can offer the best of both Western psychology and Eastern thought.
One of the things I have learned in my career is that dogmatic, idealistic approaches to relationship do not work. Whether it’s a cookie cutter women’s magazine approach to dating, society’s advice for a good marriage, or a fashionable new age approach to Tantric relationships, the unrealistic advice falls short when it comes to living these ideas out in a real relationship, with all its demands.
To have a thriving intimate life, the approach must be both realistic and potent, practical and profound.
Creating Intimacy and Deep Connection
Intimacy, though mostly understood as the close connection between partners begins with being connected to ourselves, the sensations of our body and emotions moving through us. Before we can become truly intimate with another, we must learn to listen to sensations and emotions and translate those signals into responsive action.
The first step in any human interaction is the ability to focus one’s attention and become intimate with oneself. This includes the kind of bodily feeling and awareness that allows us to feel another. Intimacy with the present moment allows for real comprehension and connection.
The bad news is that this kind of connection with one’s experience is rare in today’s world. The good news is that these are skills that can be learned.
Attention can be cultivated and the body can be sensitized to feel and connect intimately with oneself and another. For this to happen we engage with the body as a means to sensitize and bring the entire body “online”. The more online the body, the more availability and power there is for any relational engagement. Intimacy like this is not relegated to only intimate partners, but can be cultivated with any being regardless if they are our partner or not.
Brought alive through Erotic Friction, intimacy can be an eternal dance of bliss, ecstasy, awakening, and love.